In a video that has now gone viral, a woman said her fiancé was “legally” obliged to pay her bills if he ever cheated on her.
The woman, who posted on TikTok under the username salamiiqueen (@salamiiqueen), said the terms of the agreement were set out in a “notarized document” that she and her fiancé both signed. The post has amassed nearly 7 million views and thousands of comments, some from supportive viewers who compared the “ingenious” document to a marriage contract (prenups) and others from critical viewers who said the document was “weird.”
A prenup is a written contract created by an engaged couple that outlines what their “property rights” will be if they divorce, Nolo said. While many associate prenups with the super-rich, more people, especially millennials, are turning to these arrangements to protect inheritances or gain protection from their spouse’s debt.
“Millennials are more focused on building their careers and are becoming more informed about what assets will come out of their careers… Millennials feel there is a need to protect those assets,” Jacqueline Itani, an associate at Stutman, Stutman & Lichtenstein, told Insider . “A lot of the prenuptial agreements you see are from people who are entering the marriage with assets or have assets that they expect – whether it’s an inheritance from their family or gifts they want to protect.”
In addition to protecting finances and property, prenuptial agreements can also include lifestyle clauses aimed at “setting guidelines for marital conduct,” she said forbes.
For example, infidelity clauses usually ensure that one party receives monetary compensation if their spouse cheats. Although these clauses may not always be enforceable, Philadelphia divorce attorney Jennifer A. Brandt says they “can provide a deterrent to a spouse who would otherwise be unfaithful.”
“With an infidelity clause, not only does the person requesting the clause articulate their feelings about possible infidelity, the very suggestion of that clause can compel couples to communicate about what they expect from their relationship, how they will treat each other and how you will share your feelings,” Brandt said forbes. “Well, by all means, throw it in the prenup!”
Although Salamiqueen did not specify whether or not her document was a marriage contract, many of her supporters argued that it was essentially the same.
“I’ve just reached a new level of weirdness,” Salamiqueen said at the beginning of her video.
“My fiancé just signed a legal document and we had it notarized stating that if he cheats on me he’ll have to pay my bills,” she continued. “We did, we just got a legal document signed…if he cheats on me he’s fucked! I’m so smart or crazy – I don’t know.”
In a follow-up video, she clarified that now that she and her fiancé are “doing financial things together,” they’ve drawn up and signed some “documents and agreements” to protect themselves. She also said the inclusion of the cheating clause started as a joke, but her fiancé ended up inserting it into one of their agreements as a “nice little touch”.
“It’s not that deep,” she said.
As previously mentioned, the video prompted a divisive reaction. Some viewers found the agreement “brilliant”.
“Beast. That’s not crazy. That’s awesome,” said angelalynnb.
“That’s by far the smartest thing I’ve ever heard,” wrote Briana Culcay.
“Pre-Prenup, love it,” Sarah commented.
Gabrielle added: “My lawyer also advised it. It’s a real thing. A prenup can be anything you make of it.”
Others, however, thought the agreement was “strange”.
“Successful marriages are based on trust. Why start a marriage if you don’t trust him?” Bree Ware asked MacArthur.
“That’s weird af … and wouldn’t do that unless she signs the same,” Beeee wrote.
Mia Crawford asked: “Where is the trust in your relationship???”
news week contacted Salamiqueen for comment.
Other viral posts
In July, a woman whose in-laws treat her like a “gold digger” was praised online for sending them her marriage contract, which revealed she’s a millionaire. That same month, commentators applauded a woman who changed her mind about putting her fiancé on her house’s title after he pranked her.
And in February, Redditors supported a woman who refused to share her inheritance with her husband after he refused to share his.